Same experience!

I hear you!

For some reason I can't comment to your post, so am adding a new one. I remember when Lisa Spagnolo was pregnant 5 years ago I thought I was being being understanding and supportive, but I remember her saying to me what you just did below. She kept encouraging me to have a baby so she could have a friend who understood (thank God I did not have a baby with Steve!) After I had Ethan the Spags came to Seattle for a visit I suddenly felt exactly what she was getting at and I was so stunned by the realization that I apologized to them! I told them I should have brought them food and been babysitting or whatever I could do to help out. I get it now. I didn't then but I thought I did.

One of my child-free friends told me that she raised a puppy and so she knows what I'm going throught with Ethan. Huh. I didn't correct her. I raised a puppy too and two weeks of puppy potty training was nothing, absolutely nothing like having a baby. My closest girlfriends are both childless and out of state. One gets it (the one who flew here to take care of us the second she found out I had a C section) and the other has no idea. She never ever mentions Ethan when we talk on the phone. And my closest friends here are mostly gay men, who really don't understand baby land at all! Nor do they want to.

Your friends love you, they just don't know what this is all about and probably won't get it unless/until they go through this experience for themselves. It is a trial by fire, and I find more connection these days with strangers in the baby section at Target who are going through it too, than with some of my girlfriends. Anyway, chica, until your other friends catch on I'll be one of your friends who understands, and I love little bump!

Vern